There is a Spiritual Basis of all Motivation, from the Sub Atomic Level to those Levels of Awareness that are far beyond that which is human. Spiritual Motivation is the drive to have Fun. To have fun discovering who you are, discovering what you can be, discovering who you can be, becoming more than you are.
The reason for existing, the reason for growing, the reason for doing the things that are done on all of these various levels, including our own day to day activity, can be synthesized down to that motivation.
Now, this motivation by fun can be broken down into four components. These four components of what it means to have fun and to become more of what you are, fit together very nicely to support the entire concept of confidence.
The first motivating component is to have Dominion in Nature. We can think of this as the development of the Human Consciousness, separate from that of the Animal, Plant and Mineral Kingdom. Dominion in Nature, is part of what it is to have fun and to become more than you are.
The second motivating component is the Conscious Creation of your Material World. The way to develop and manifest that Fun, quite clearly, is to be Conscious of that Creation.
The third motivating component is Total Happiness, allowing for yourself and creating for yourself, a reality where you can be totally happy. Not just you being totally happy. Everyone being Totally Happy. Moving toward that direction of total happiness for everybody.
The fourth motivating component that makes up this motivation towards Fun, is the Freedom to Be. The Freedom to Be whatever and whoever you are.
These four Spiritual Motivations provide the drive towards the Spiritual Goal of having Fun.
In our modern world, which I would define as including everything, let's say, since the development of the Egyptian in the West and the Chinese or Oriental in the East, it has always been these goals of Dominion, Creation, Happiness and Self Chosen Beingness that people have been after. Expressed in different words perhaps, but it all rather synthesises down to these four motivating components in search of the Spiritual Goal of having Fun.
It was, however, in the Dark and Middle ages, believed that the Spiritual Goal was only available to the few, to the select, and therefore the development of what has been hitherto referred to as the Secret Teachings, the Mystery Schools, the Initiated, the Enlightened, etc.
Throughout the development of the Judeo Christian tradition, Dominion, Creation, Happiness and Beingness was available only for the select. If you worked hard and did a good job, maybe in some future lifetime you could be born into the elect.
Something happened however, when we came out of the Dark and Middle Ages. The Industrial Revolution, which included the idea of a Spiritual Goal. One that was much more limited than previously. This limitation made it accessible to everyone and, although many think that the Industrial Revolution was when they invented machines, developed assembly lines and industry and belching smokestacks and pollution and England's Black Satanic Mills, it also brought about the possibility for everyone to have these four components of having Fun.
The Industrial Revolution gave that Spiritual Goal to everybody. Oh it changed it a bit, quite so. It became Domination of Nature rather than Dominion in Nature. It became material abundant wealth rather than consciously creating the material reality. It became the greatest good for the greatest number rather than total happiness. It became the freedom to have whatever you want, rather than the freedom to be whoever you are. Nevertheless the threads were there, the components were there.
And what was the Spiritual Goal became the Grand Promise. The Industrial Revolution, even though it began in England, gave birth to the American Dream, which became basically the Western World Dream. It was there for everyone. No longer for the few.
The Source of Western Confidence. With the development of Technology you became Omnipotent, or so you thought. With the development of Science you became Omniscient, or so you thought. And indeed, with Science and Technology you were well on your way to becoming Gods, being able to create a whole new Reality and indeed the goal of that Grand Promise was to create your own reality.
The basis of western business in it's most capitalistic form is that you create your own reality. It's the same as the Spiritual Goal. Changed, yes. Altered, obviously; but the motivation, the drive, that began as a Spiritual Goal, got warped a bit, twisted a bit, but nonetheless continues throughout the world.
The idea was, that with Unlimited Production came Unlimited Consumption and that's the fallacy. That's where it always falls apart. Unlimited Production does not, ipso facto, provide Unlimited Consumption. The Grand Promise failed. Society, as a whole, doesn't know it yet.
The Grand Scheme was dependent upon the natural world being there. And because it no longer is, it has failed. Whereas the Spiritual Goal, in it's more pure form, relies upon nothing. Nothing that has to be there. Except Desire, Expectation and Knowing.
Your natural resources are running out, you are told. But the Grand Dream is based upon the assumption that they'll always be there. And they won't.
With mechanical energy and then nuclear energy replacing human and animal energy, and with computers replacing the human mind, it was believed, and is still held very desperately by many, that there can be unlimited production and therefore unlimited consumption. All based upon the false assumption that the natural world continues to provide abundance, always there, to build that whole new world.
The economy in the last few years is attempting to show you. Many of us living in the richer areas of the west do not know the dream has already failed, do not know that the promise was false. But those who live in other parts of the western world see it all the time, with employment rates of 25 percent, with people whose lives have been ruined, because they lost their job, the only job they knew, or that the overtime they had been living on was cut back and off, where they lose their house, where they lose everything, where they have to have, as Braniff Airlines did for their employees, a huge auction, to sell their possessions, just to exist, to survive.
Maybe not yours specifically, but the confidence has generally broken. The promise that if you were good and went to school, or got a good job, and had training, that you would become rich, that you would be happy, that you would be free and that you would have domination of nature, did not work.
And that realisation, and that broken promise, breaks confidence. And the problem is not the economic distress. There's nothing wrong with western business. It's the confidence, when it's broken, that brings the destruction.
That's why we know that Rome did not fall because they ate grapes lying down. It fell because the promise that they had, of world control, world domination, total abundance, total happiness or happiness for the greatest number and their freedom, of the Roman Empire, to be what they wanted to be, with total and unlimited production and resources would provide total consumption. It didn't work then and it isn't working now.
The rise of the Third Reich, was not because there were cabarets and decadence and people sitting around singing while the world was being destroyed.
It was because the German nation's confidence in the pre Hitler Weimar Republic, with it's promise that people would have domination of the natural world, total abundance, total happiness, the greatest good for the greatest number and freedom, didn't happen.
That pre Hitler Crisis of Confidence brought about the destruction that was Hitler.
In society now there have been studies done, amongst students and others, and well over fifty percent did not anticipate living past thirty. The confidence has been broken. The promise that older people thrive on is meaningless to them. The confidence is broken.
The economy is showing us, with the inflation and the interest rates and the mortgage rates and the foreclosures.
At one time, that Crisis in Confidence was the motivation behind the conceived threat of nuclear holocaust. That's where that "Let's all build fallout shelters and store up dried eggs and soya products came from. Let's prepare for that holocaust that's going to destroy everything. And hopefully out of our terror, a new promise, will develop". It is all a manifestation of broken confidence, not the result of superior technology.
On a very personal level, the microcosm is Self Confidence. And as the Grand Confidence or the larger confidence is broken, so Self Confidence is under threat. People are losing their Self Confidence and it's not just a "tsk tsk" situation, for it is that broken confidence that destroys.
Even World War Two, with the fall of the Third Reich. What broke it wasn't the Battle for the Bulge in Normandy. It wasn't the brilliance of Eisenhower. Or Montgomery. It was the German's broken confidence in the dream that Adolph Hitler gave. The dream of Total domination of the world, of nature. Total abundance. Happiness for the Aryan Race. Total freedom for the Aryan Race. The Great Promise. Different words. Same theme.
The German Goal was not because the people were decadent. It's that their confidence after the first world war was broken and replaced by a new promise, which the people accepted and followed. It's not that the Germans were by nature unfeeling.
That new confidence also broke and the allies went forth victorious. What if that German confidence had not broken ? Somebody's would have, and they would have been the losers. Broken confidence leads to destruction.
If you want to do something, want to make a difference, want to have impact on the world, be confident and spread that confidence. You're not likely to win a Nobel Prize, or get a standing ovation, or have people "Ooh" and "Aah" when you walk into the room. So you may not want to do that, to make the world work, because there's not so much fame.
What are you doing to make the world ? "I'm being confident in myself and allowing that confidence to be infectious spreading". Oh big deal. That doesn't get you invited to dinner anywhere. That doesn't let you be part of the family. True, but it does more toward having impact on the world. A world where confidence is broken and where the potentialities of destruction are very real.
I'm just pointing out the phenomena of Grand Promises, explaining what occurs and giving an explanation of why the world is the way it is. Explaining that Confidence is not "Oh Yeah", I should have a little of that. It is crucial and it is a vital aspect of your Success.
What is Confidence ? What is Self Confidence ? Well first of all we would suggest that Self Confidence is a component, one of the integral parts of a particular structure, you might say. It works integrally with Self Love, Self Esteem and Self Worth. And it is, perhaps the fourth component.
Self Love is loving yourself. Having compassion and caring for yourself and it has a particular quality about it in that it is more or less given. You come into this world totally loving yourself. It is only after you are born that you are talked out of it.
Self Esteem is that same lovingness, except that it is earned. It is something that is developed, over time. An infant is not automatically Self Esteeming. No one is. It is something you develop. Consciously develop. But it is the same loving quality, the same compassion and caring for yourself, only it is in a form that you earn. It's not given.
It is much more associated with father. Because mother's love is given. Father's love you have to earn. Very few of you expect your fathers to love you just because "Well he's my father". Your mother, yes. She's supposed to love you. That's part of the definition of being a mother. And that's given. Of course she loves me. She should. She'd better. And if she doesn't, it's how terrible etc.
Whereas father's love, you expect to earn it. Failed at it but nonetheless you at least saw it in the scope of "this is something I have to earn". It's not something I can take for granted. Therefore it deals with the same loving components, only earned.
Both Self Love and Self Esteem deal with your ability to be loved or your loveability. Both are developed. One given, One earned.
Self Worth however is not Self Esteem, nor is it Self Love. It is the basis upon which Self Love and Self Esteem are built. It is the raw material, used to form Self Love and Self Esteem. You cannot develop Self Worth, no matter how much you try. Self Worth is a quality. It is not a quantity. It is the material out of which you build the other components, which are qualitative and quantitative. But Self Worth is qualitative only.
You have as much Self Worth today as you have ever had and ever will have. The most despicable person you can think of, down in the city wearing clothing made of old paper bags, sleeping in some gutter. that drunken no good derelict, houses as much worth as you do. Not one smidgen less, because you have worth one hundred percent. You can't add to it. You cannot detract from it. There is nothing you can do to become less worthy. There's a lot you can do to block the worth that's there. There's nothing you can do to become less worthy.
The problem that you face, in trying to develop your Self Worth, is that you will fail. You cannot do it. Take a ten ounce glass of water with ten ounces of water in it. Try to get two more ounces in there. You can't do it. There's no way. Worth is a quality, not a quantity.
No matter how despicably you may behave. You may have low Self Esteem. You may have low Self Love. You may have zero Confidence, but you still have the same amount of worth.
Self Confidence is different from Self Love and from Self Esteem and Self Worth in that Self Confidence is the ability to depend upon your Positive Ego, or to put it more correctly, to depend upon your Ego functioning properly, so as to survive.
It is dependability, the Ability to depend upon Self Love, Self Esteem and Self Worth. The Ability to depend upon your Ego functioning properly, so as to cope, so as to survive in this reality.
The Ego, in it's proper function, is supposed to give you messages, messages of what is happening out there in that reality of yours. So that you, as an interior being, can make decisions based upon the received information. That's how the Ego is supposed to function, not to interpret.
When the Ego is functioning properly you are Self Confident. When you get the message "It is warm outside" you can then take that and decide "I'll wear summer clothes today" and you can give the message back to the outside reality and have it happen.
Rather than the message being, from the Negative Ego, "It's warm outside. Doesn't this always happen, just when you want it to be cool, it's warm, it's a plot against you. You're a total failure. You can't do anything right."
Self Confidence is the ability to depend, not the ability to get information, but the ability to depend upon the information. That's very important to distinguish.
Self Confidence is something you develop, by experience. So, when we look at it, Self Worth and Self Confidence deal with your ability, your dependability. Self Love and Self Esteem deal with your loveability. And that is a very major distinction. One to be aware of. Under the loveability you have the given of Self Love and the earned of Self Esteem. Under the dependability you have the given of Self Worth and the earned of Self Confidence. Self Confidence and Self Esteem both being earned and Self Love and Self Worth both being given.
Self Confidence is "I am confident in myself that I can depend upon myself to organise whatever happens and prosper. This is vitally important because without it a number of things screw up.
First of all, without Self Confidence, Self Love and Self Esteem are rendered ineffective. For, if you don't have any Self Confidence, the Self Love and the Self Esteem remain inactive. They remain totally inside of yourself, never manifesting or leading to anything. So Self Confidence is a vitally important part of implementing Love and Esteem.
Secondly, without Self Confidence, Self Worth becomes totally theory. It becomes totally isolated. For if you do not have a way to manifest it, the Confidence to use it, then it becomes that, just a theory.
Thirdly, the Negative Ego has Total Reign. Because Self Confidence is the ability to depend upon the Positive Ego to function. If you don't have any Confidence, you don't have a Positive Ego functioning, or at least you can't depend upon it.
Fourthly, without the Self Confidence, you don't grow up. You remain either an adolescent or a young adult, living in a fantasy that is unattainable. A fantasy that you don't really want to attain. You just want to dream, and talk about, and pine over. If offered to you, you would run the other way. Without Confidence, you stay stuck in, at best, young adult, at worst adolescence.
Fifthly, without Self Confidence, the fear of Loneliness becomes actual alienation. Like the paranoid, so afraid that everyone is after them and sometimes there are people after them, out to get you. Fear of Loneliness makes you lost, cut off, alienated in time and space.
Sixthly, Self Confidence is a vital part of your inspirational growth. It is essential. You can grow spiritually, but Self Confidence is a vital part of your Spiritual Growth. The accomplishment of it. The achievement. The fullness of it, that you're after. What's important here is perhaps a slight distinction. The Human Potential Movement is that movement or activity that helps you discover more of what you are, whereas the Spiritual Potential Movement helps you discover more of who you are, rather than just what you are. You can go through the Human Potential Movement and take every course and everything that's offered you and learn everything there is to learn, filling up notebooks and cassette tapes and all of that, without any confidence in yourself. You've gone through the Human Potential Movement and you get a scope of what you are.
Seventhly, with Self Confidence, your choices become Growth Choices. Without it, almost all your choices are fear choices. So Self Confidence is very important. Anything can be a Growth Choice and anything can be a Fear Choice. Should I read this particular book. The Fear Choice might be "I might learn something I don't want to deal with". It might make me see things about myself I don't want to.
The Growth Choice might be "I can learn more about myself". The Fear Choice, by reading it I'm becoming dependent, I'm not thinking for myself. etc. The Growth Choice to not read it is "I'm going to be my own person. I'll figure it out for myself. I'm not going to rely upon somebody else's idea of what's going on. I'm going to figure it out myself.
So any decision you make, whether it's to do or not to do something can be interpreted as a Growth Choice or a Fear Choice. Each person creates their own reality and is continually making either Growth Choices or Fear Choices. Without Confidence, every Choice is a Fear Choice. With Self Confidence, more and more of your Choices become Growth Choices. More and more, regardless of what you do, the Choices become Growth Choices.
With Confidence you have Power. Without it, Power is a Theory. Power is the Ability to Act. Not the Ability to Dominate. Power becomes a Vibrant Reality when you are feeling Self Confident. It becomes an intellectual theory when you are not. With Confidence, you act as the Cause of your Reality. Without it you react to the effects. Self Confidence is vitally important in your Reality and the development thereof very important to have.
Why not have Confidence then ? Why do you block it if it's such a vital necessity ? There are numbers of reasons why people will not develop their Self Confidence and even when they know they ought to, they won't. There are those of you reading this that will indeed, dutifully listen and take very copious notes, outlined ever so beautifully etc. and will not do anything with it and will find yourself just as much lacking Confidence next week, next month and six months from now as you do now. And it's not because "I didn't quite get it" or "I wasn't quite there". It's because you've chosen not to.
The first thing to say about "why not develop Confidence" is similar to what also happens with Perfection. There are a lot of people who go around saying "Oh, Isn't it sad. Oh poor me. Isn't it a silly thing I do. I'm just hung up on being Perfect. Isn't that silly. Aren't I just some sort of Nerd, etc. Ho, ho, ho. Such a cute little problem, perfection. Isn't it ?"
In truth, when they say "I'm trying to be perfect", what they're in effect saying is "I'm trying to be better than everybody else and I'm all broken up because I'm unable to do that"
Rather than saying "I have a problem with trying to be better than everybody else and I haven't been able to do it yet." All of a sudden it doesn't become such a socially acceptable problem. It's a little hard to go up to someone and say "Will you please give me sympathy because I'm trying to be better than you, and I haven't been able to do it yet".
Well, similarly, lack of Self Confidence is a function of Ego.
You have as much opportunity to be Confident about what you're doing as you do to be lacking Confidence. Therefore you have to go out of your way to lack confidence. And your doing so is a function of your Ego. You're doing it as a Function of your "die hard" determination to hang on to your Young Adult Fantasy. The Crystallised Ego.
"When I was twenty I decided I wanted to be the most famous person on the planet, regardless of what my reality says, regardless of how hurtful that is to you, regardless of what that does to everybody else in that Reality, I'm not giving it up". That's what I'm saying when I won't have Confidence. I'm saying "I would rather be in my Negative Ego, I would rather hold on to my Negative Ego Manipulations of you".
It becomes real hard to get any energy behind that, you know, when you see it more realistically for what it is. Lack of Confidence is a Choice. Your mother didn't do it to you. "Oh, she always put me down. She always told me I was dumb, etc." That may affect your ability to see your Self Worth.
That may affect your ability to Love yourself, but it does not, honestly, effect upon your ability to have Confidence in yourself. That's the mistake you make. "My father never paid attention to me. Never played ball with me in the back yard, he never, dear boy, etc. He never, let me sit on his knee once I was thirteen, etc. if your a girl, whatever, etc. He made me feel ugly, he made me feel dirty, whatever. For boys, he didn't let me feel like a man. He didn't teach me how to function in the world (as if he knew) but nonetheless, there's this feeling of "they did it to you".
No, your father may have never played ball with you and never told you to put money in the bank. It earns interest there, don't put it in a mattress, you can get it stolen. It maybe he never did any of that for you. Never gave you all the secrets of how to succeed in business, etc. Your mother may have always put you down. May have always said you're dumb and stupid and ugly and never going to find anybody to like you and if you ever have a friend it's probably because they're blind, deaf and dumb.
They may have told you all that, and that will affect your Self Love and your Self Worth. Not whether you have Self Worth but whether you can see it or not. But it does not have to touch your Self Esteem. Nor does it have to touch your Self Confidence. If you let it touch your Self Esteem; If you let it touch your Self Confidence, it's because you've gone out of your way to do so.
Now that sounds very foreign, we know because so many of you have relied upon "Oh I lack Confidence" as the excuse. "I'd love to go out and get a new job but I'm not confident enough to do so yet". "I'd love to change careers but I'm not confident enough to do so". That's a lie. The more you can realise it's a lie, the faster you can stop lying to yourself. Mother and father didn't erode your Confidence. Your Ego did.
Your situation, your childhood, your first marriage, your first relationship, your screw ups around sex, did not do you in with Self Confidence. It's a lie. An excuse. A Convenience. Rather than saying "I'd rather hang on to my Ego. I'd rather hold out to be better than all of you", which doesn't sound very pleasant and might get you a punch on the nose, you lump it all under this euphemism called Lacking Confidence and go watery eyed and quiver voiced on yourself.
The sooner you can see that it's a lie, a Choice, a Decision, that love and worth are affected by your past. When you look at it. How is Self Confidence affected by your past ? It's not. Your Loving Capacity is, and your ability to see your worth is affected by your past. Truly so. But not your Self Esteem and your Self Confidence.
Self Esteem and Confidence are earned. Now, you can let the past affect you. We're not saying that. You can build a case for it. But it's your Choice to do so. It's not in fact true. Whereas Self Love and Self Worth developing and seeing, are affected. Then it's a choice to stop letting them be affected.
Now the reasons, first of all, the Pay-offs. By having no confidence in yourself or having lost your Self Confidence you can take every pay off you can imagine. You can Avoid Everything, Blame Everybody, Feel Righteous about everything, Hold on to your Guarantees, Feel Sorry for Yourself, Feel Better Than, Feel Self Important and Hang on to the Past. You can use every pay off you want. Every category and everything under it.
Mainly a lack of Self Confidence is your biggest excuse. Your biggest excuse for not creating your Reality the way you want it. The biggest pay off is "I get to use it as an excuse", "I can fall back on it when I don't want to look elsewhere".
Also, if I don't want to give up my Negative Ego, separate from the Pay Offs, when I enjoy my Negative Ego, and secretly admire it, I/m not going to be Confident with myself. Because, to be Confident threatens that very Ego. Therefore, if I don't want to threaten that Ego, I'm not going to be Confident.
Thinking that you are better than everybody else. That you are somehow special. That you are somehow better, even if you are worse. You're the best "Worse than". If you want to hang on to your Ego Guarantees, you are not about to feel Confident. No matter how important it is.
"I want to Control". That's a big Ego Guarantee. The creme de la creme of Ego Guarantees.
I'll go ahead and love myself. I'll go ahead and Self Esteem. I'll even go ahead and realise my Self Worth, if I can still Control. If it's still OK to manipulate and to Control People. But no. It's not OK. Oh well then, forget it. It's not worth it. I would much rather know that I can control other people and manipulate them than bother with that Self Love, Self Esteem, Self Worth crap.
The amount you hang on to those guarantees; I want a guarantee that I get to Control. I want a guarantee I'll have everything I want, I want a guarantee I will find a relationship, I want a guarantee that someone will love me, I want a guarantee someone will take care of me, any number of those. I'd much rather hold out for that than be Self Loving, Self Esteeming, Self Worthy and most of all Self Confident.
The greatest threat to those guarantees is Self Confidence. So you can Self Love and still hold out for the guarantees, to some degree. You can even have Self Esteem and still hold out for them. You can even recognise your Worth and still surreptitiously hold out for them.
But with Confidence you can't. It's unique. You cannot hold onto those guarantees.
The fourth reason that you don't want to feel confident is quite clearly the Adolescent Fantasy. That particular Adolescent Fantasy that became crystallised as the Young Adult, that you're still going for. Despite the fact that it doesn't work for you.
How many people we talk with have the adolescent fantasy of When I grow up I'm going to find my Soul Mate, that crystallises at around twenty as "I'm going to find the perfect lover, who's going to take care of me totally, who's going to serve me, and be of service to me, and adore me, and look out for me, and make me happy, and take care of me totally.
And then they set out on their search, getting slaughtered every step of the way, having the most miserable time they've ever had, and still holding out for the fantasy.
Number five is "I want someone to do it for me". If I'm confident in myself and I can do it for myself, Hell, that's no fun. That's somehow losing. If I have to love myself, then that means no one else did it.
To be Confident of my ability to do it, my ability to depend on me, means somehow that other people couldn't depend on me, and I couldn't depend on them and somehow it feels like a losing position.
For men, you kind of get this image of the last one out of the locker room, dragging along. No one. Having to take the bus home. For women it is that sort of thing of having to go shopping alone. All your friends went together and no one asked you. Going out to dinner by yourself. Going to the movie alone. Terrible. Rotten. And that's it. If I have to feel confident it's the same as that. There wasn't anybody for me to depend on and no one to depend on me and so I'm stuck with myself. Alright I'll feel Confident. Because of that feeling, that to do it for myself is somehow a losing position. No one was there to do it for me. I won't do it. Afraid of the poignancy. That's a big one.
Number six is very clearly "Wanting to feel sorry for yourself and to punish yourself". Poor me, I'm not confident. Poor me. I get to beat myself up. Bad me. You're bad. Terrible. I know it's important and supposed to be easy and if I don't feel Confident my whole worlds going to crumble. Self Punishment. The trouble with Self Pity and Self Punishment is that they always turn to blame and punishing others.
Finally, the fear of loneliness. One of the biggest reasons a lot of you will not allow yourselves to feel Confident is that you do hold onto an inordinate fear of loneliness. If I'm Confident; if I have the ability to depend upon myself to cope, I don't need anybody. I won't have anybody. If I don't have anybody I'll be alone and lonely. It lies in there, the particular feeling, that something is so wrong about me that if I indeed felt Confident, I wouldn't like people, and you have to like people, right ? I wouldn't be nice to people and I've got to be nice to them, of course. Therefore, almost out of protecting you, I won't feel confident.
With the Fear of Loneliness is also the Fear of Ego. I don't want to look cocky. I don't want to look Arrogant. I don't want to look like I'm feeling better than you. Which somehow you associate with feeling and looking Confident. Which is not true.
Looking Confident and looking Arrogant are two different things. But you won't feel Confident because you don't want to look like your feeling Arrogant. Mainly because you are feeling Arrogant and don't want anyone to know it. But if you look Confident, they might assume you're Arrogant. and they'd be right.
So what we've looked at so far is first of all the importance and significance of Confidence and it's not just a personal thing; its a world wide thing. It's a planetary thing. Your Confidence, even though we joke about it; you specifically will not be responsible for the first bomb that's dropped.
Realise that it is broken Confidence on a world wide scale that brings about destruction on a world wide scale. and that that Confidence on a World wide scale is a Synergy of the Confidence of each individual. As that breaks, so the Confidence of the individual breaks. As the Confidence of the individual breaks, so that confidence breaks. There are people who have let their whole lives be ruined. They can hardly conceive that, but they have. It's a choice. People have their lives washed away. Their property gone. Their livelihood. Their loved ones. What ruins their lives is the break of Confidence.
Create your pocket of total abundant success, make this the most glorious time in your life, but be aware of the reality out there. Have Compassion and Understanding for it. See it as a symbol of that Macrocosmic Confidence breaking. See in it the need to renew your Self Confidence. The Microcosm needs to be renewed.
Confidence is very essential on that scale. It's essential for your growth. The development of Self Love, Self Esteem, Self Worth is Self Confidence. Seeing what it is, an integral part of that component, and that ability to depend, not to love, not to like, but to depend upon yourself, on what it does for you. Why it's so important.
Firstly Trust: Intellectual, Physical, Emotional and Spiritual Trust. Trusting yourself and others does not mean that you expect everything to go perfectly. It means that if something goes wrong, you can handle it. If it goes right I can also handle it. The issue is one of dependability. If you find yourself, for example, wanting to dominate, to control, to be in charge and to manipulate, that's an indication that you don't trust. If you find yourself wanting to smother, wanting to know all the answers, wanting to know all the possibilities as to what might go right and what might go wrong ahead of time, you're not trusting yourself. To go into a situation where you have all the alternatives covered is a lack of trust. The beauty of chaos.
The four requirements are: First there must be a good and a bad. Secondly the result must be in the future. Thirdly the possible bad must be worse than the benefit is beneficial. Fourthly you must expect the benefit. Otherwise, don't trust.
People try to trust themselves and others when trust is not applicable.
The second component of Self Confidence is Humility. There are times when one wonders Why the hell am I creating this reality, to let this person be such a schmuck. Partly, it might well be because you're courageous, an expression of your courage, as opposed to your faultiness or your failure.
Similarly, for those who encounter people in your life that seem at times like "Why would I possibly create this rotten, terrible reality. Maybe it could be as a way for you to express your courage. That doesn't mean therefore, all the bad stuff is an "Ah good, good, look at all the terrible way people are treating me. Look how courageous I am.
Courage is a very quiet and subtle thing. Most people won't be able to pin point your courage. But they'll feel it. And they'll respect it.
What's the formula then ? How do these four components of Trust, Humility, Hope and Courage fit together. It's not just equal parts.
The formula is:
[(Trust divided by Humility) plus Hope] X Courage = Self Confidence
By maximising these, the Self Confidence will maximise.
Self Confidence One is what we refer to when we talk of Self Confidence. Self Confidence Two is a higher octave of Self Confidence One. It basically fits together this way. Whereas Self Confidence One is your ability to depend upon your positive ego to function, Self Confidence two is your ability to depend upon your Unconscious and Higher Conscious to function. It is therefore an ability to survive, not physically, but spiritually.
Trust becomes Knowing. When you reach a certain level of Spiritual Evolution you don't have to trust yourself any more. You know.
Humility becomes Understanding. Being outside of yourself so as to understand and to see all aspects simultaneously. By nature there's a Humility there.
Hope becomes Awareness. Awareness is what Hope becomes because whereas Hope is taking the plentiful present and making it alive with possibility, the higher octave of that is knowing all the possibilities, which is awareness.
Courage is Being. The higher octave of being a courageous person is a person of total Being. Or a consciousness of total being.
[(Knowing divided by Understanding) plus Awareness] X Being = Self Consciousness Two.
So if you want to develop Self Confidence Two, knowing you are able to depend upon your Higher Self, to know that it will be there for you. That it will never let you down. To get there you've got to go through Self Confidence One. But what you then work with is not what you believe but what you know. And what do you understand about your knowing. And what are you aware of outside of yourself. Bigger than you. Taking that and multiplying it by the degree to which you are, gives you Self Confidence Two.
How do you go about getting there ? There are several ways you can do it.
First of all by being aware of the components that make up Confidence. What is Confidence. By thinking about those components. What does that mean to me in my life. How can I be more courageous ? How can I have more hope ? How can I have more Humility ? Day in and day out. Understand the components and by knowing why you want to feel confident. Oh I wish I was confident. Why ? I don't know. Isn't that what everybody’s supposed to wish for ? Why is Self Confidence important ? Know the components and why you want to do it. Then do it.
Another approach is developing the loveabilities. The Self Love and the Self Esteem. For if you develop the loveabilities, the dependabilities will follow. They have to, because it's out of the dependabilities that you develop the loveabilities. You have to have the raw materials to produce the finished product. You will know that developing the loveabilities will develop the dependabilities and so it will happen.
The third approach is to think of a situation around which and about which you want to feel confident. Run through very quickly, what are you payoffs for this specific situation. What Ego am I taking here, as opposed to feeling confident. What adolescent or young adult fantasy am I clutching to, rather than feeling confident ? Then visualise it going the way you want it to go. Then reverse it etc.
The fourth approach is to take a past Self Confidence Quotient on a past experience when you were confident.
The essential elements from the information on Self Confidence are:
Having Fun is discovering who you are, what you can be and who you can be and becoming more than you are.
The Spiritual Basis of all Motivation is Having Fun.
Spiritual Motivation has four Objectives, these being
(1) Dominion in Nature
(2) Conscious Creation of your Material World
(3) Total Happiness
(4) Freedom to Be.
The Industrial revolution included the Spiritual Goal but converted it into the same Worldly Goal which never works and which every time destroys a major civilisation, including, Atlantis, Babylon, Rome, The German Third Reich, Hitler's Germany and Soviet Russia. Led by the United States, almost the entire world, including Soviet Russia, believes in the same Grand Promise. The promise is now failing, not just in one country, but on a world wide basis.
The Grand Promise counterparts of the Spiritual Goal are always
(1) Domination over Nature,
(2) Material Abundant Wealth,
(3) The Greatest Good for the Greatest Number and
(4) Freedom to Have.
The Spiritual Goal relies upon nothing more than Desire, Expectation and Knowing.
Normally it is impossible for anyone to actually know anything. They are usually only in a position to believe. Knowing is the Final Valuable Product of a Belief System which is consistently in alignment with Universal Principles. Belief Systems which are predominantly, if not completely, in line with Universal Principles include the Kabbalah, Original Christianity, original Buddhism, original Sufism, Theosophy, Anthroposophy, the publications of the Psychology Publishing Company of Marple, Cheshire, England, plus the ideas of Gerdjeff, Ouspensky, Krishnamurti, Thaddeus Golas, A Course in Miracles, J.G.Bennett, Seth, Lazaris, Charles Tart, Andrew Cohen, Imre Vallon, Arnold Patent, Avatar, etc.
Only if a Belief System tells it's adherents how to find truth, without telling them what truth is, can that Belief System be in line with Universal Principles. Individuals who rely blindly upon outside guidance can never be in line with Universal Principles. All denominations which claim to know truth are false. Only those which use non evaluative techniques which allow individuals to find the truth for themselves can possibly be in alignment with Universal Principles.
The Grand Dream Goal relies upon an abundance of available resources and upon ever increasing productivity. These are illusions and have led to a Crisis of Confidence which has been identical for every civilisation which has risen and then decayed.
Self Confidence, along with Self Worth, Self Love and Self Esteem are the Motivators.
When the Grand Promise is new, they are highly appreciated.
Self Love is a given. It is the love you have for yourself at birth.
Self Esteem is earned. It is earned, especially from father.
Self Worth is given. It is a quality which you cannot change. You can however imagine that you have no Self Worth.
Self Confidence is earned.
Without Self Confidence, Self Love and Self Esteem are ineffective, Self Worth becomes theory, the Negative Ego has total reign, You don't grow up, the Fear of Loneliness becomes actual Alienation, Spiritual Growth gets strangled, all Decisions are Fear Choices.
Like Perfection, Lack of Confidence is a covert Ego Stance.
Self Love and Self Worth may be invalidated by others.
Self Esteem and Self Confidence are only lost because you choose to lose them.
The Pay Off List includes:
Avoiding everything
Blame Everybody
Feel Righteous about everything
Hold onto your Guarantees
Feel Sorry for yourself
Feel Better Than
Feel Self Important
Hang on to the past.
Self Confidence itself consists of Trust, Humility, Hope and Courage.
The four requirements for Trust are first there must be a good and a bad. Secondly the result is in the future. Thirdly the possible bad is worse than the benefit is beneficial. Fourthly you must expect the benefit. Otherwise, don't trust.
Humility is a willingness to look anew at situations in your reality, regardless of how frequently you've experienced it before.
Hope is taking a present which is resplendent with abundance and seeing the future possibilities. It's not comparing anything. It's seeing predictable possibilities.
Hopelessness is not something that comes on you. It's something that you put out.
There's no such thing as hopelessness, but people play the game of "I feel hopeless", as if it's something out there that has pinned them to the wall. Paralysed them from the neck down. It is my refusal to see the possibilities, my refusal to let the present be alive. That I am therefore deciding to be hopeless and therefore, out of that decision, to feel hopelessness.
Courage is not machismo, guts, endurance of pain and suffering. That's just stupid. Since none of that is required. Courage is knowing you're scared and doing it anyway. Not letting your fears paralyse you. Courage is also that willingness to encounter your life, not to wait to see what happens.
Courage is also the willingness to see people as people. So often you learn that you create your reality and that everybody else in your reality is a figment of your imagination, an illusion.
The courageous person sees the person next to them first of all as a person and only secondly as a product of their own creation. To be willing to see the person next to you as a real person and only afterwards to say why am I creating them the way I see them. The willingness to let them be real. That's courageous.
